No One Ever Asked …

Carol A. Hand

All the child welfare system could do
Was take a mother’s children away
No one ever asked why she always had tears in her eyes
Although her daughter cried for her beautiful mother
No one ever asked what her mother needed to heal
So the child spent her childhood with strangers
A mother mourned and the strangers felt virtuous
The community lost yet another child to removal
And the system closed the case, its job complete


Photo: Carlisle Indian Industrial School (Wikipedia

Can the circle of caring community ever be mended?

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21 thoughts on “No One Ever Asked …

    1. Thank you for sharing your powerful memories, David. This morning, I felt that sadness too as I reread one of the interviews from my research. It’s a sadness that still echoes through so many lives over the course of generations.

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  1. Government agencies can never, and should never, be trusted to accomplish any permanent good for the many, especially the agencies that forcibly intrude on the homes and lives of people, and without ever truly understanding what is happening in each “case”, in each family.

    I, too, have experienced the horrors of this system. Not in the same manner as your mother and you had, of course, but through friends who had found themselves in the clutches of this monstrous system and its blinded robots who carry out the orders.

    “Good intentions paved the path to hell:” these misguided ‘workers’ do more harm than good! It’s time for this system to be put down by the individual!

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    1. It is a monstrous system, Sojourner. Yet we perpetuate it if we fail to do what we can to reweave caring community circles, even though that feels like an impossible task in these times. We need to learn how to stand together in solidarity – in loving, inclusive peace.

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      1. Could not agree more!

        To be honest, I struggle with how to get the messages I feel led to post out there without feeling I am alienating people. And this is not what I want to do.

        Hopefully I will come to a place where I can sense the balance needed and do some good.

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  2. The wholesale destruction of Native American families is one of the many tragic and reprehensible acts of this country that isn’t taught in schools. The human devastation ripples through generations to the present day. It breaks my heart and makes me absolutely furious!

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      1. Carol, thanks for sharing that Native American healing song.

        Eusi Kwayana’s latest book on Jonestown from a Guyanese perspective features an interview with an elder of the Native Carib Indians. Here’s an excerpt of what he shared with the interviewee. For me, it was the most poignant chapter in Kwayana’s book.

        “They [the Peoples Temple] came without knowing or wanting to know about the history of Kaituma [location of Jonestown], heartland of the Caribs. This is a holy place for us, and no strangers have ever been able to stay here for long without making peace with our ancestors.”

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